Reasons to Reflect

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From my visit to the Santa Barbara Museum of Natural History

I find that if I feel overwhelmed, distant, or unfocused, it’s a reminder to carve out some time for reflection. Although I have made progress in my intentions to reflect on my daily life, teaching practices, and goals and aspirations, I get busy. I’m busy with the 170+ students I support in the classroom. I get busy with cooking and cleaning. I get busy with life. When I neglect alone time I usually reserve for reflective practices, it becomes apparent in my mood and overall attitude toward my daily tasks.

I suppose I first learned to reflect as part of my journey in the quest for understanding who I am and why I am on this path we call life. Spirituality is very important to me, but I do not fit into any specific box regarding spiritual practices. I do find value in journaling while I consider what has led me to make the decisions I’ve made. I take these moments of rest to decompress, yes, but to also process what makes me…me.

I first began reflective practices in my professional life as I completed an MFA program in Creative Writing. I have engaged in creative writing since my teenage years, but I learned to reflect on my writing (through more writing) as part of my growth practices. This was new for me when I first began to reflect on my writing, but it is now invaluable as I grow as a creative artist.

As an educator, I find it to be of paramount importance that I reflect on my teaching practices. I do not wish to simply go through the motions as a teacher. I wish to truly have an impact on my students and their individual journeys, so I must consider how to become more culturally aware and responsive, more engaging, more empowering, and more empathetic as I facilitate learning. This requires reflection.

When I am frazzled, harried, or overly stressed, I sometimes forget (or even ignore) the time needed to reflect. Growth comes through experience and often pain. My friend the butterfly seen above (I named her Mildred) took a break on the corner of a cement bench and allowed me a moment to witness her grandeur. Her journey required painful transformation. I like to think her consciousness allows for reflection on how far she’s come. Friends, take the time to reflect on your divinity, on the things for which you are grateful, on your professional work, and on your overall badassery. Reflection helps us to see how we each make the world better. That’s enough for me to want to remember this critical practice. Until next time!

Every New Beginning

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First Monday of the Spring 2016 Semester” by CSUF Photos is licensed under CC BY-NC-SA 2.0.

Closing time, time for you to go out to the places you will be from…

Songwriter: Dan Wilson. Closing time lyrics © Wb music corp., Universal music corp.

As I recently finished my second-to-last semester as a doctoral student and as I am about to finish another semester as an educator, I am thinking on the lyrics of Semisonic’s 90’s hit “Closing Time”. The song gained popularity when I was a junior in high school. I have a particular memory of hearing a friend of mine sing it as we relished in the excitement of a high-school journalism conference held in Colorado Springs the summer before our senior year. We were about to embark on what we considered to be a closing of our educational experience. Although we had plans to continue our education, senior year felt like an end.

Closing time, every new beginning comes from some other beginning’s end…

Songwriter: Dan Wilson. Closing time lyrics © Wb music corp., Universal music corp.

I often ponder on my decision to work in education. The cyclical nature of my job is something I both appreciate and dread. In some ways, it is a pleasure to see students grow in my classroom before they move on to other adventures. On the other side of that coin is the goodbye I utter to my pupils, knowing that it will likely be the last time we interact. I suppose that is a beautiful thing in its way, but I am too often emotionally blindsided by the constant ebb and flow of people with whom I have the pleasure of sharing in the educational experience.

SKY for New Year’s card” by skyseeker is licensed under CC BY 2.0.

As the holiday season plays on and the new year dawns, I look forward to the opportunity to reflect on how much I have changed this year and set goals for the new. I am glad I can continue to write, to read, and meet people who can share something unique with me. I’m grateful for ends, beginnings, relationships, challenges, solutions and, whatever they may be, the places I will be from.

Until the next time,

Jeffery L. Buckner-Rodas – The SwashBuckner

A Time for Reflection

clocks” by Leo Reynolds is licensed under CC BY-NC-SA 2.0.

As year end approaches, I often find myself looking back and pondering on how I got to where I am today. I do not do this with any particular goal in mind, nor do I allow regrets to encroach upon my thoughts, but I do enjoy wondering if my current state of affairs is an example of pleasant synchronicity or if there is some weight to the ideas on the law of attraction.

One thing I can state with absolute certainty is that I have rarely in my life been so mixed up in such a staggering array of affairs as I am right now. Juggling my various roles of husband, educator, caregiver, and doctoral candidate, along with daily tasks, chores, and occasional surprises, allows for little doubt that I am busy. As there is no trophy for such industry (at least not yet…), I sometimes wonder why I do some of these things. These moments of wonder do not always bring suitable answers, but they do remind me how much I love to just be in my mind and let it wander.

Thinker thinks about how to take sun burst shot” by davidyuweb is licensed under CC BY-NC 2.0.

The word wonder brings me back to another time I felt harried by life’s happenings. It was 2014 and I worked two part-time jobs while studying (creating) full time in an MFA in Creative Writing program. As I dabbled in poetry during the program, I wrote the poem found below. It does not represent who I am today, but it is a nice reminder of the space my mind was in at the time. I have come far. Who knows where my journey will take me next? As your year comes to an end, do you ever wonder about how often you let yourself wonder? Enjoy.

An Elegy to Wonder

by Jeffery L. Buckner

Moments were not always so fleeting.

I remember the days that took years,

The hours that could each claim

A title from the zodiac.

In measureless minutes I sat,

Pondering on some question that begged

An answer, never hearing the clicks of the third hand.

How far away are the stars? To where do the birds fly?

Why does music give me goosebumps?

Childlike wonderment: the unknown gift

Lost before its self-recognition. Where did it go?

Does it exist in the stamp of a time card?

Perhaps it’s trampled under the wheels of the lines

Of screaming cars on the 405. Maybe it hides from

The scurrying words of a rushed bedtime story. Time,

Not given its rightful attention, must flee, so it seems.

STEPHEN KING’S 20 QUOTES ON WRITING

This man tells it like it is! I appreciate his simple and honest approach to the craft of writing.

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Most of the quotes were taken from this book.

1. “Any word you have to hunt for in a thesaurus is the wrong word. There are no exceptions to this rule.”

2. “Writing isn’t about making money, getting famous, getting dates, getting laid, or making friends. In the end, it’s about enriching the lives of those who will read your work, and enriching your own life, as well. It’s about getting up, getting well, and getting over. Getting happy, okay? Getting happy.”

3. “Write with the door closed, rewrite with the door open.”

4. “Amateurs sit and wait for inspiration, the rest of us just get up and go to work.”

5. “In many cases when a reader puts a story aside because it ‘got boring,’ the boredom arose because the writer grew enchanted with his powers of description and lost sight of his priority, which is to keep…

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A Glimpse into My Personal Life

I celebrated my 32nd birthday this week. It was a great day and I was thankful to be able to spend time with my partner Jorge, our foster son, and with Jorge’s parents. It was a fun evening at home with a soccer game on the TV.

Jorge surprised me with tickets to the Dodgers game for the following day. I have not yet been to Dodgers Stadium and it was going to be Gabriel’s first time as well. We had a BLAST! 

To start the evening off, REO Speedwagon sang the national anthem. That was cool enough, but then John Cho (Actor- Star Trek, White Castle) threw the first pitch. That was way cool as well. 

It was a chilly evening. The sunset was gorgeous. The crowd was amiable. Great fun.

I decided to write about this today because I had a realization last night. Better said, I had a confirmation of something I think I already knew. Family time is so important. The past several months have been more hectic than I would have liked and I found myself feeling disconnected from life as I previously knew it. The hours I spent with my family were amazing and now I have new precious memories.

So if I may add in a bit of advice–if you are feeling disconnected from anyone or anything, spend some quality time with that someone or something so that you can effectively reevaluate the important things in your life. I hope to always remember this, and if I need a reminder, well, I can always look back on this blog posting. I have a feeling that when I do need this reminder, I will happen upon this very page…

Thank you for reading,

Jeffery

Why am I here?

The question above does not refer to the origin of man or my purpose in life. I found myself wondering this morning why I decided to start a blog. I juggled several ideas, but I have come to the conclusion that I want to write something every day. Will I have a great impact on the world? Maybe not, but that is certainly not the reason why I am doing this.

I do hope, however, that I will be able to offer something of use to the casual reader. Blogging will be a way to share ideas, recipes, experiences, etc. I find that to be invigorating. 

This site will also be a way for me to share the stories I write. I want to share my stories with as many readers as I can. This is just another way for me to do just that.

So, faithful followers, I have a question. I have been wanting to begin a new novel that will fit into the genre of historical fiction. These are my favorite stories and so, which events in history do you think would make an interesting backdrop to a story? What time periods would you like to read about?

Let me know…

Jeffery

First Blog Post

Well, today I’m going to talk about…

That is the notorious first line from ever too many of my student’s essay submissions from the past semester. It’s funny, I show them great ways to begin an essay–with a hook or grabber of sorts–and they still go right back to the word “Well”. 

I am excited about this blog. I have not yet ventured into this way of writing and I feel as if it will be a great way to share my ideas, my stories, and my life’s adventures. As the saying goes, drop me a line, if you are so inclined.

Jeffery

By the way, I attribute my blog title to my dear friend Jorane Barton, who so cleverly found a way to use my last name in a fun way. Thank you Jorane!